WikiP: 'Trust'

Trust
Virtues: relationships, predictive actions, past knowledge

I've always known wikipedia to be a good resource for historical facts and events, but it never really dawned on me that wikipedia can be used as a dictionary - to look up terms and definitions of everyday words. Well, apparently to my knowledge, wikipedia is also some sort of a dictionary, but where dictionary.com only gives you the definition of a word, wikipedia gives you the definition and concepts behind the word, and relational concepts.

For example, let's look at the word 'Trust':
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trust_%28social_sciences%29

Trust is a relationship of reliance. A trusted party is presumed to seek to fulfill policies, ethical codes, law and their previous promises.

Trust does not need to involve belief in the good character, vices, or morals of the other party. Persons engaged in a criminal activity usually trust each other to some extent. Also trust does not need to include an action that you and the other party are mutually engaged in. Trust is a prediction of reliance on an action, based on what a party knows about the other party. Trust is a statement about what is otherwise unknown -- for example, because it is far away, cannot be verified, or is in the future.

And it goes on, and on. Reading this, I particularly find the line 'Trust is a prediction of reliance on an action, based on what a party knows about the other party.' to be very telling as it really does not matter how long you have known someone to ascertain if you trust them, what is important is how much knowledge and/or insight you have on an individual - one can get that intel in years or in a matter of minutes. Family, lifelong friends should be 'trustworthy', but we may only perceive them as such because of the notion that such people should be the ones that we 'trust'. Well trust me, trust can be found in the oddest of places with even the oddest of people, as trust should really be based and predicted upon the reliance of an action - based on what you know about an individual.

I believe I always have had this notion for years, but have never been able to articulated quite like the wiki has (but, I never really had the desire to do so either). Its very hard to say that I can fully trust someone - because we base trust on how we would hope/anticipate people to act in certain situations. Its a cliche to say well, "I hope they will do the right thing", but that 'right thing' varies from individual to individual. It would be best to base your trust based on the immediate action + what prior information you know about the individual.

For example:

You would not trust him with your kids:


Michael Jackson


You would not trust him with your 15 year old daughter:


R. Kelly

You would not trust her with keeping a secret:


Karrine Superhead Steffans


You would not trust him (Ike Turner) with your personal safety:


Ike Turner & Tina Turner


You would not trust his word:


O.J. Simpson


In all, you would not trust these people in the examples that I prescribed, but that does not directly correlate that you would not trust them in other scenarios: R. Kelly could be able to give you good advice & direction regarding the music industry, O.J. may be a trustful source of information for football skills & techniques, and Karrine 'Superhead' Steffans may be a good source of intel on how to keep a man ... any guess on how she would do that? (LOL).

But, in all importance, we all need to put our trust in ourselves as we must be confident and, we must try to attain a sense of surety that the decisions we make will be the 'right' one.


.:: d.b ::.

3rd Person B

3rd Person B
Living the narrative

The third person is commonly referred to as a narrative in which one is telling a story of themselves or of subjects. In novels the third person narrative is imperative as it reveals the thoughts of the protagonist and other characters of interest. Sometimes I think that my life is lived as a narrative, making myself the narrator; as I find myself accurately predicting and/or calling the thoughts and actions of others. Which has its positives & negative associations, but with this skill, it has made me very objective. You know, always trying to be impartial, be considerate of others, be politically correct; especially in the work environment, as you know we live in the age of pussification where one's individual voice is muted at work as one dare not try to express any thought and/or emotion for fear of insulting anyone's personal beliefs. However, subconsciously, I think that 3rd person aspect seeps its way into your personal life like ooze, and it has caused me to respond in my personal relationships as I did in my work relationships. A couple of years ago, I remember someone telling me of this behaviour, but I thought that they were way off, but now recollecting, it made sense.

Since then, I've worked on it, some have said that I worked on it too much (by being brutally honest), but I guess as the saying goes, 'you cant please everyone'. And really and truly, being 'liked by others' is completely over-rated.

What do y'all think? Share your thoughts and comments, share the knowledge.

.:: d.b


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Breathe & Stop

Breathtakers
Virtues: Cot damn, sexy, ravishing

They come when you least expect it;
Taking you back to a place in time where bliss stays rampant & inhibition is diluted;
Their mere presence alters your rhythm;
Thought is interrupted, Breath is suspended, Mobility is stalled;
Time slows to a snail's pace, and vision acuity is crystallized
Focus, ready, shoot.
Snap!
The memory is sharper than any Digi SLR;
Filed & archived away as a moment in time that will last forever as I continue my walk down the city sidewalk.

Why they are the way they are

Why they are the way they are
Virtues: Perseverance, Strength, Courage, Black Women

It has been said that black women have an attitude.

Not only do they have attitude, but they are opinionated, calculating, and have a low tolerance for ... just about anything.

They move swiftly throughout; strong & defiant to get what they want.

You dare not argue with black women because you will lose; even if you are right, trust me, you will lose some other way.

We have classified black women as Bitches; because their opinions clash with our alpha-male persona.
We call them hood rats because their Fathers have abandoned them and have forced the single-mother to fend for themselves with a dependent(s) in a decaying environments.
We objectify them in pop culture as video vixens that are only as relevant as their 'assets' or their willingness to please others (RE: Karine 'Superhead' Steffans).
We call them hoes as a way to characterize their promiscuous lifestyle, but for men, that same promiscuity is revered & receives adoration.

So, I get it. Black women will drive you crazy; they will be pesky, vocal, and confrontational. Black women don't put up with shit - they deserve better & will not settle for less.
So yeah, the attitude is there, but is a manifestation of how they have been treated over generations; they have been shitted on forever, but are now doing the dumping.

And that is why they 'are' the way they 'are'.

.:: d.b

Give Thanks to the Haters

Give thanks to the Haters
Virtues: respect, doubt, confidence, self-inflicting

Christmas is that time of the year to give thanks, spend time with your loved ones, and to reflect on the past and the future. We give thanks to faith, family, and friends that help us map our course through life. But I want to give thanks to a class of people that serves a useful purpose for society - the haters. I was trying to find a definition of the word 'hater' at urbandictonary.com, but some of the entries were a bit out there, so I will not define it in a statement, but in the following dialogue:

Give thanks to haters for ...
- without them, we wouldn't second-guess ourselves and question our judgment
- for doubting our abilities and reducing our confidence in ourselves
- for distracting us from the 'eye on the prize' with their 'hataration'
- making fun of Britney (though may be warranted), but for also trivializing public breakdowns such as the fate of Amy Winehouse
- for taking hip-hop culture to another level as deliberate acts of a 'beatdown' of a rap artist was put on YouTube
- above all, wasting our time procrastinating, thinking; helping us to avoid our fears, goals, and challenges because of the 'seed' that you have put in our mind - the seed of doubt, that grows with each passing of a thought such as 'maybe I can't do it', or 'maybe I shouldn't, because'.

Haters don't do much damage as we do to ourselves, but let's give thanks to them because without them, we wouldn't realize that our full potential is greater than what they could ever imagine and/or hate on.

See you in '08 Haters!

.:: d.b
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Dont impress me kid

Don't Impress Me Kid

Virtues: self-monitoring, respect, accolades, getting 'gassed', hype, tolerance

Excerpt - Look at me, look at me. I am the ish, I do this, I do that - join MY team. I AM doing so well, I AM ballin' - you gots to believe ME! Or is it believe IN me??? .... -- Behavior of the 'Gassed' Individual

Ever had this happen to you? I've had plenty of times - you see an old acquaintance/friend from your past; high school, college, old neighborhood or just from around the way. Now, personally I rarely need accolades from others to build my self-confidence or self-esteem; I use rarely because I can admit that 'yes' it feels nice to be praised every once in awhile, but I feel it is only valid if I'm not looking for the accolades .... Enter the main theme of this piece. I'm referring to that dude or girl who you see every once in awhile whom tries to get your respect & praise from what they are doing in their own lives. They try so hard to persuade you to say 'wow' 'ooh', and 'ahh'; they may do this with over exaggerating situations, showing you pictures & images to show proof of what they are doing, or by even telling you to talk to a mutual friend to verify/solidify their prominence. I'm not hating one's hustle or grind, get money & stay true.

But, one should not need the approval of others, or try hard to make others feel impressed because that comes off really shallow; one's self-worth isn't much. I'll use the term 'gas' to describe these people as they try to fill-up their ego with high-octane so that they can feel that they are 'somebody'; and yes, we are all 'somebody', but those that need 'gas' are NOT happy with that 'somebody' whom they are.

I guess the 'gas' is propelling them to their ideal 'somebody' ... but I ain't gonna help the process, ya dig?

.:: Peace ::.
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